Marrying Outside The Church
We're shifting gears back to you marrieds today. May this topic be thought-provoking.
I've been having what feels like the same conversation with different people about this, so I felt I should share it with you.
Growing up, I always thought that the man I married would already be a member of The Church or at least would convert before we got married, just as my grandfather and father had done. I felt that was expected of me.
Before meeting my husband, I had dated guys both from inside and outside of The Church. It was a lot easier dating a member because we were able to share in the blessings of God without explanation.
That's what I wanted, but, once again, God told me different.
My husband is not a member of The Church of Jesus Christ. Because I had grown up thinking I should marry inside The Church, even after getting engaged, I really questioned whether I was doing what I wanted or what God wanted. Maybe you're in the same boat and wondering the same thing. Here is my testimony.
I had done a lot of fasting and praying about it, and on our wedding day, as I walked down the aisle, I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I was doing what God wanted. Just because it wasn't the path I thought I was supposed to take doesn't mean it wasn't God's plan.
My husband is Christian and has a relationship with God. Having separate Christian faiths does mean there are differences, and this is sometimes difficult for us, I must be honest.
My husband is a wonderful man and serves God in his own way. Even though he is not a member of The Church, he supports me, prays with me, comes to church with me, and participates in activities we do as a mission. He does not get in the way of my service to God, and, in fact, encourages me when I'm down and even reminds me of the things that I've told him when he's been down. Of course, I would love it if he became my Brother in Christ, but that's between him and God. I'm not worried about it. I've given it to God and will continue to pray about it.
Before I got married, I spoke with a few sisters married to men who are also not members. They all told me the same thing. I need to be consistent in my service to God because even if he doesn't say anything, he notices. I've found that to be true. When I say I go to church every Sunday, I need to go to church. I can't skip because I'm tired or want to go hiking or do something else. When I say I pray before I eat and before bed, I need to pray at those times, even if I'm the one doing all the praying. When I say I have complete trust in God, I need to always hand my problems over and stop worrying about them.
So, that would be my advice to anyone married to or even dating someone who is not a member of The Church. I really believe that God knows what's best for each of us and that you can share your life with and lead an extremely happy life with someone who is not a member of The Church. But know that there will be differences, and it is harder, so it's very important to make sure to follow God's plan.