Do's and Don'ts of Visiting the Sick

Written by Sister Zarella Scolaro on Thursday, October 03, 2019. Posted in Devotional

Do's and Don'ts of Visiting the Sick

The original version of today's article was first published on January 26, 2017.

It's October, and we're on the cusp of the "season of giving." If you're a go-getter, you may already be thinking about some of the ways you'll give back during the holidays. 

One very important way to reach out (anytime of year) is to visit the sick and afflicted. Those who are homebound or bedridden may love to see a friendly face. Some ailments can't be seen, though, and you may find God prompting you to visit someone who is spiritually struggling, grieving, or lonely.

If the idea of visiting someone makes you a little uneasy or unsure, then here is some advice for you to consider.

Why Do It?

  • It's an ancient and common practice (2 Kings 8:29; 2 Kings 13:14; Job 2:11)
  • It shows love and charity (Psalm 35:13-14)
  • It's our Christian duty (Hebrews 13:1-3; 16)
  • It's humbling (Mormon 8:36-39; Ezekiel 34:1-4)

Who Should Do It?

Even though in Luke 9:1-2, God is giving a mandate to His apostles, certain work is available for all disciples of Christ, so everyone who considers themselves a servant of God can visit the afflicted.

What to Do on a Visit

  • Call first.
  • Inform yourself about the person's affliction.
  • Prepare yourself mentally for what you might see and hear.
  • Choose a good topic of conversation that interests the person. Ask questions, and really listen.
  • Keep any disclosed information confidential.
  • Bring something thoughtful (flowers, book, game).
  • Help in any way you can (fluff a pillow, get water).
  • Sit close and maintain soft (genuine, two-way) eye contact.
  • Let the person cry and express emotion. Don't try to "fix" it.
  • Offer to look after the person's house, pets, etc.
  • End the visit well without making an excuse to leave.
  • Support the person's primary caregiver.

What Not to Do on a Visit

  • Talk about your own illnesses or problems.
  • Bring food if you're not sure the person can eat it.
  • Show distaste for the hospital, facility, machines, tubes, etc.
  • Reproach or criticize the person's state, as this can just depress the person further — remember the friends of Job?
  • Repeatedly look at the clock or your phone.
  • Promise more than you can deliver.

What Do You Get from Visiting?

  • Spiritual and material prosperity (Jacob 2:17-19)
  • Entrance into the kingdom of God (Matthew 25:34-40)

Can you add something to this list? Post a comment with your best advice for visiting. 

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Comments (4)

  • Frank Natoli

    Frank Natoli

    03 October 2019 at 07:33 |
    Although situations and conditions vary from person to person, you might consider asking if they'd like to sing a hymn with you, or if they'd like you to read some scripture to them. At the end of the visit, ask if you may offer a word of prayer. The song doesn't need to be perfect, nor the prayer, just sincere and heartfelt.

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  • Jenni

    Jenni

    05 October 2019 at 15:04 |
    Might I suggest you share what prompted you to make contact with them, and remember that they are showing great trust in you when they allow you into what may be their safest place, their home. Be sure to acknowledge that with gratitude.

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  • Lee

    Lee

    06 October 2019 at 12:16 |
    I'm somewhat home bound. Sometimes I'm good for about an hour or two a day; on those days I race to get grocery shopping and errands run after which I pretty much collapse from exhaustion. I have been denied getting my temple recommend renewed because I don't attend church even though I mail my tithe payment in weekly. I guess my training as a thespian has paid off (I've starred in films and television commercials). I always put on a happy face, so I guess those few times (3 times in 4 years) anyone stops by they are either fooled or just going through the motions because it's their duty. So sad. Where is the spirit of discernment. The Bishop was my former HT companion for over a year. You'd figure he'd know me. But he doesn't care. Where is the Spirit of discernment? I'm sorry if I sound dejected and negative, I never thought it would be like this. Thank goodness I raised my children correctly. My daughter's are very active in the church in other states far from me.
    I logged on here to try and watch Oct semi-annual conference. I can't find it any where. I'm an old widower and not very tech saavy. No one cares. OI could cry.

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  • Michelle Watson

    Michelle Watson

    06 October 2019 at 19:40 |
    Hello Lee, I am so sorry to hear that you're feeling down and lonely. May God lift your spirit in His loving, miraculous way. The reason you cannot find the conference video is because this isn't the website for the LDS group. We are a different restoration church with a similar name.

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